Abusive relationships are complex situations which take a lot of courage to leave. When a survivor leaves an abusive relationship, the perpetrator's sense of power and control is threatened, and this may cause the abuser to retaliate. That is why leaving is one of the most dangerous things a survivor can do.

The misconception about abused women who stay is that ‘’it can’t be that bad’’. The reality is that there are many factors that don’t allow them to leave an abusive relationship.

  • Financial dependence on the abuser. 
  • Lack of knowledge of her rights. 
  • Belief that the police can’t or won’t help her. 
  • Belief that she, as a woman deserves the abuse. 
  • Belief that the abuser will change or that she can make it stop if she tries hard enough. 
  • The abuser may forbid her to see other people or threaten to harm people she cares for. 
  • Those she turns to for help may not believe her or blame her. 
  • Shame and embarrassment about the abuse. 
  • Belief that the children need their father.

Whatever the reason, leaving an abusive relationship can be difficult.

Leaving an abuser can feel impossible if the victim does not have access to the right support.

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